THE ROOM

Nobody asked for a discount.
I offered one anyway.

Check the last six agreements you signed. Your fee is probably lower than the fee you think you charge.

Five and a Half

You quote five and a half percent now. You used to quote six.

You can't point to the day it changed. A couple of years ago the competition in your market picked up. A few listings went to agents who charged less. One seller said something about commissions that stuck with you. Sometime after that, five and a half became the number you say out loud.

You never sat down and decided it. It changed a little at a time.

Now it's in your listing packet. It's the number in your email when someone asks what you charge. It's printed.

If you work with buyers, the same thing happened in your buyer agreement. The number in the compensation section is lower than it was two years ago. There's also a sentence about asking the seller to cover it that you wrote on a nervous day.

Two Years at a Lower Fee

Do the math. Six sides a year, or twelve, or twenty, at half a point less than you used to charge.

It's real money. You know roughly how much, and you've never written it down. Write it down this week. Seeing the number on paper is different from knowing it roughly.

Now go back through those appointments and count the ones where somebody pushed on your fee.

For most of them, nobody did. They asked what you charge. You told them the lower number, and they said fine. They would likely have said fine to six.

So you lowered your fee for objections that never came.

There are good reasons to lower a fee. A repeat client with two properties. A builder with six lots. Your sister's neighbor. Those are decisions you made on purpose, and you can explain each one.

This is different. Your fee dropped without a decision, while you were busy with everything else.

What the Industry Tells You to Do

The industry's answer is to hold your fee. That's good advice. Know your value. Have the fee conversation ready. Don't apologize for the number. Don't discount.

Agents who follow that advice are better prepared. It helps them when a client challenges the fee.

In your case, the fee went down before any client challenged it. It happened weeks earlier, at your desk, when you decided what number to print.

You Lowered Your Fee Before Anyone Asked

The lower number isn't a discount anymore. It's your price. You set it for a conversation that mostly never happens.

You expected an objection, so you priced for it. That means you brought the objection into the appointment yourself.

The people across the table don't know any of this. They never saw your fee at six. All they hear is the number you say and how you say it.

When you quote a fee and then explain it, it sounds like an opening offer. When you quote a fee and stop, it sounds like your fee. You say five and a half with an explanation ready, and people can hear that.

So sellers who would have paid six now pay five and a half. And the ones who were always going to push still push. Your lower price already shows them the number can move.

You didn't avoid the hard conversation. You still have it, and now it starts from a lower number.

The number keeps dropping, too. Five and a half held for a while. Then someone asked if you'd do five on a house you really wanted. You did it once. Now five is a number you already agreed to.

What Your Clients Learn From a Lower Fee

The lower fee costs you something more than money.

Your fee is the first thing a client watches you handle. It's the only negotiation they see before you negotiate for them.

When your fee is already lowered and you have a reason ready, clients can tell you aren't sure of it. They don't analyze it. People simply notice when someone is sure and when someone isn't.

Later, an offer comes in under list, and you tell them what you'd do. Part of them wonders whether that's your honest advice or you trying to avoid a hard conversation. They started wondering at the first meeting.

Why It Keeps Happening

It doesn't feel like discounting. It feels like being realistic about your market. And you're right about your market. It's competitive, and clients ask about commissions more than they used to.

Underneath that is a belief. Written down, it reads something like this. My fee is what costs me clients.

Once you believe that, you feel you have to manage your fee. Printing a lower number is the easiest way to manage it. It can even feel generous.

It doesn't feel like giving something up. It feels like being on the client's side early. That's how two years can go by without you noticing.

The same belief shows up when somebody asks what you charge and you keep talking. It also shows up when you start softening a price recommendation before the seller has reacted to it. You can lower a price recommendation in advance, the same way you lowered your fee.

Two Things to Do at Your Desk

Both of these happen at your desk, before your next appointment.

First, pull your last six agreements. Write down the fee you actually got on each one. Not the fee you quote. The one on the signed agreement. Next to each, write one word for how it got there: asked, or offered.

If you work with buyers, do the same with your last six buyer agreements.

Count the ones marked offered. Those are the discounts nobody asked for.

Most agents who do this are more surprised by the count than by the money.

Second, write your fee down in one sentence while you're calm and alone.

"My fee is six percent, and I don't discount it."

Use your own number. Say it out loud once in the car. Then at the appointment, when they ask, say it and stop talking.

If somebody pushes back, that's a fair conversation, and you can have it. Just don't lower your fee ahead of time, before anyone has asked.

It takes about twenty minutes. It may be the first time in two years that anyone has looked at the fee you really charge.

The Name for This Pattern

This pattern has a name. It's the second of the Six Mind Shifts™, Beliefs, and the shift is from doubt to conviction.

The doubt is the fear that your fee costs you clients. Conviction is knowing your work is worth your fee. You decide that while you're calm, so there's nothing to manage when someone asks.

I wrote about it in The Unforgettable Agent. This pattern is easy to miss. Nothing dramatic happens. Your fee just gets smaller over time.

Every agent loses deals

Most never put a number to it.

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Larry Heathcote is an identity coach for real estate agents, creator of the Six Mind Shifts™ and the Six Decision Drivers™, and author of The Unforgettable Agent. He works on the one thing in every room an agent can actually control: who you are when you sit across from a client.